WALTER MERCADO : Predicciones para un mundo cambiante - Walter Mercado - ElNuevoHerald.com

WALTER MERCADO : Predicciones para un mundo cambiante - Walter Mercado - ElNuevoHerald.com

Sheryl Sandberg: Why we have too few women leaders | Video on TED.com

Sheryl Sandberg: Why we have too few women leaders Video on TED.com

Working Towards Realizing My Dreams...

I just spent the better part of my day, working on a report from a Board Retreat I facilitated last Sunday at Aspira ,Inc., of PA for Centro Pedro Claver, Inc.  It was a labor of love, but one which I felt honored to have been asked to facilitate.  This was an all day event in which a dynamic group of committed, passionate community members met to strategically plan the coming year. 

Because it is my hope to grow my consulting business as well as develop and hone my skills in a variety of areas, I was happy to work on this project.  This to me, is a step towards my future goals, I'm working towards realizing my dreams for the future.  The opportunities are out there, you just have to keep your eyes open to them.  In this case, an informal mentor of mine contacted me to facilitate this retreat.  How could I say no? 

Often times, we think that there is some complex formula for achieving goals or being successful, when in actuality it really boils down to a few simple things you can do:

• Take risks - be willing to do something you've never done before.  Experience is your best teacher.
• Network - have your thirty second spiel ready and give out your business cards at every event, remember every chance meeting is a networking opportunity.
• Write it down - basically the two most valuable tools you need for success are found in any desk, drawer, home and office in America - a pen and paper.  Write down what you can do, what you'd like to learn to do, set a timeline, write down those people who can help you and you will be surprised how far you get.  It isn't real until you write it down!
• Remain teachable - never stop learning.  Read about the things that interest you, about your field. Take classes formally and informally.  Sharpen your saw and be open to new experiences.

Be The Cause, Not The Effect

A masterful motivator asks what do we want to cause to happen? What do we want to produce? People who have a hard time managing people have a hard time asking those questions b/c they're thinking about what's happening to them instead of what they're going to cause. When people see you as a cause instead of an effect, it won't be hard to teach them to think the same way...


Every decision you make is not a decision about what to do. It's a decision about who you are. When you see this, when you understand it, everything changes. You begin to see life in a new way. All events, occurences, and situations turn into opportunities to do what you came here to do. Choosing to be a producer who causes things to happen will set you apart from most other people...  excerpt from 101 Ways to Motivate Others by Steven Chandler & Scott Richardson

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Season's Greetings!

With the holiday season here and a New Year fast approaching, may this time bring you pleasant memories and much happiness.  I hope that your holiday season will be a time for the celebration of love, life and friendship--a time to reflect on what has transpired throughout the year, as well as new possibilities for the future.


Your dedication and support of my blog is greatly appreciated. As always, let us know what I can do to better serve your needs as I move forward together on our leadership journeys. Happy holidays!

Cacica Yve

End of the Year Career Audit

The New Year is fast approaching, and it's as good a time as any to re-evaluate your mental commitment with your employer, regardless if there has been any major changes in your career.

Like most of us, our organizations have experienced changes over the past year.  You may have experienced downsizing, rightsizing, reorganization, new owners, higher expectations, a new boss, a new team or perhaps a merger...  Any one of these changes can impact dramatically your work environment.  We all have an unspoken contract with our employers, and when there organization shifts, you need to decide if want to continue trading your performance with your employer for a fee.

Even if you have not experienced any of these changes, and your job is running smoothly along the same path, day after day, month after month, year after year, take a moment right now to examining your job and perform a career audit.

Doing this will give you the opportunity to sort through any changes, keep you from becoming complacent, and keep you in control of your career.

Each year, ask yourself:

•  What four things did I really enjoy about my job last year?
•  What percentage of the total job do they represent _____ %?
•  What four things did I really dislike about my job last year?
•  Why do I dislike these activities?  What or who did they negatively affect?  Why?
•  Will I have the opportunity to do more of the things I like in the future? yes/no/some
•  Are they the kind of things that really motivate me? yes/no
•  Do the things I dislike violate my beliefs, principles or values? yes/no
•  What percentage of the total job do I spend on things I dislike? ______%
•  Are you excited about going into work in the morning?
• Have I come home with stories that often begin with "You would not believe what happened at work today, this place is a zoo? yes/no How often? ____ per week.
• Have people suggested to you that you get another job elsewhere? yes/no  Who suggested it?
• How often do I agree with the decisions my manager made?  Less than 50% of the time? More than 50% of the time?
• Have I suddenly thought to myself while in a meeting or at the office "I don't want to work with this group any longer? yes/no
• Do I feel a huge sense of relief on Fridays? yes/no
• Does my stomach tie up in knots on Sundays just thinking about work on Monday?
• How many new things did I learn this year?
• Did I enjoy my job? Or do I say things like "At least I still have a job, I should be grateful with so many people unemployed?
• Will the skills I've learned at this job be marketable elsewhere? Are they transferable?
• Has what I learned last year in terms of skills build my credibility and has it sharpened my technical specialty? yes/no
• Has my personality changed for the better or worse in the last year because of this job?

If you answers reveal a deep dissatisfaction with direction that your current job is taking you, perhaps it is time to find somewhere else to work.  Get your career back on track!
 

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Cacica Yve's World: For True Success Ask Yourself These Four Questions...

Cacica Yve's World: For True Success Ask Yourself These Four Questions...: "I was checking the blogs on facebook today and a very good friend and Comadre Pennie Rodriguez posted : For true success ask yourself these..."

For True Success Ask Yourself These Four Questions...

I was checking the blogs on facebook today and a very good friend and Comadre Pennie Rodriguez posted :

For true success ask yourself these four questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now?

Wow, this is an "Ah ha" moment for me... how can four seemingly small questions be so huge?  Imagine the possibilities if we only stopped and asked ourselves these three questions.

Often times we allow fear to keep us from attempting things when opportunities come up.  We allow that little fearful voice inside to discourage us from taking risks, from reaching our potential, from taking a leap of faith.

The next time you are face with an opportunity to try something outside your comfort zone.... stop and ask these four simple questions.... can cultivate a healthy disrespect for the impossible!

Cacica Yve's World: Inspiration Deficit Disorder

Cacica Yve's World: Inspiration Deficit Disorder: "How many of us are suffering from Inspiration Deficit Disorder and need help? IDD affects millions of people in the world today. The med..."

Inspiration Deficit Disorder

How many of us are suffering from Inspiration Deficit Disorder and need help?  IDD affects millions of people in the world today.  The media focuses on all that is wrong with the world today, but how much time is spent on getting inspired? 

What I do when I begin to feel stressed and uninspired is listen to inspiring music like the soundtrack from Rocky.  I read something inspirational like The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch.  I do watch an inspirational movie like Stand and Deliver. And finally, I do something inspirational like volunteer at a local school. 

What can you do to control your Inspiration Deficit Disorder?

Whitney Houston - One Moment In Time

 As a Self-Enrichment Instructor I often urge my students to look for books, movies, quotes or songs that inspire them or motivate them to be the best they can be or to achieve something they desire...  For me I have several options, but this song strikes an inspirational cord with me.  I hope it does with you as well.

Enjoy, and Be Blessed!

Cacica Yve's World: Inspiring Reading: What Book Has Inspired You To ...

Cacica Yve's World: Inspiring Reading: What Book Has Inspired You To ...: "I recently taught a workshop on leadership development for my Alma Mater. I based my presentation on a combination of leadership books that..."

Inspiring Reading: What Book Has Inspired You To Be A Better Leader?

I recently taught a workshop on leadership development for my Alma Mater.  I based my presentation on a combination of leadership books that I had read that inspired me to be a better and more effective leader.  Later that day, I moderated a leadership forum with several prominent Latino leaders on issues facing our community.  Afterwards I was speaking with the executive director of a prominent Latino community organization Ms. Joanna Otero, of Concilio about what has inspired her to be a better leader and the conversation led to the question "what are you currently reading or what have you read that has inspired you?"

I later thought about this conversation when one of the students contacted me for the names of the books that Joanna and I had mentioned.  I provided her with a list and she later emailed me to say that she had just gotten the books and asked which did I recommend she read first.  This email prompted me to write this blog, because I'm sure that many of us can benefit from each others list of books that have inspired us. 

To that end, I'd like to take the lead by creating a forum for you to help each other find books that keep your forward-thinking wheels turning.

What have you read that has made you a better leader? Whether is non-fiction or fiction, I want you to share what you've been reading that has inspired you.

Please comment in the space below with the title of the book and a brief statement saying how it has helped you think differently or stay ahead of the curve.  Use your full name so I can give you proper credit.  Each week, I will select one book recommendation and feature it in on this blog and my facebook fan page for Latino Leadership Alumni Association, with props to you for the recommendation. 

I look forward to your contributions!  Happy reading!  I will begin the conversation with one of my all time favorites which I quote from frequently: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, A Toltec Wisdom Book by Don Miguel Ruiz. 

Cacica Yve's World: Life Is A Gift... Enjoy It

Cacica Yve's World: Life Is A Gift... Enjoy It: "There was a young lady who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except this loving and passionate young man who had resp..."

Life Is A Gift... Enjoy It

There was a young lady who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except this loving and passionate young man who had respectfully asked permission from this young lady's parents to marry her. He was always there for her. Upon an occasion, she told this young man, 'If I could only see the world, I would marry you.'



One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her the young man who has proposed marriage to her. He asked her,'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at the young man and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her once desired husband -to-be left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.

Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who

was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift

Today

before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't

speak.


Before

you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone

who has nothing to eat..


Before

you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone

who's crying out to GOD for a companion.


Today

before you complain about life - Think of someone who went

too early to heaven..


Before

whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who

walks the same distance with their feet.


And when

you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the

unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your

job..


And when

depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on

your face and think: you're alive and still

around..


I PRAY THIS MOVES AROUND THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE.....

Famous Failures

Cacica Yve's World: So You've RSVP'd To A Networking Event.... Now Wha...

Cacica Yve's World: So You've RSVP'd To A Networking Event.... Now Wha...: "I often get invited to networking events with various groups, such as my college alumni association, professional organizations, and a varie..."

So You've RSVP'd To A Networking Event.... Now What?

I often get invited to networking events with various groups, such as my college alumni association, professional organizations, and a variety of community organizations.  Invaritable I get emails from friends asking me if I'm attending this event or that.  Or I'll show up at an event and run into someone I know - who proceeds to cling to me the entire night.  Why does the thought of networking paralyzes some people?

Here are some tips that will help you get over your fear and go from novice to pro in no time.

• Prepare and practice a 30 second evevator spiel about who you are, and what you do.  This is your opportunity to sell yourself in a brief and friendly way.
• Ask people about what they do.  People often feel comfortable talking about themselves, this gives you an opportunity to get to know the individual and develop follow-up questions
• Ask do they come to these sorts of events often.  Sometimes finding out that others are not experienced at this puts you at ease.  If you find that they are experienced ask them for tips on how to get the most out of this experience.
• Always keep your business cards on hand, preferably in a nice card holder.  Sometimes the card holder itself can be fodder for conversation as an icebreaker.
• Don't drink too much... you are trying to make business contacts, the last thing you want to do is give a bad first impression.
• Practice a firm handshake and more importantly a smooth release.  Don't hold on to people's hand too long, its awkward for the person and it conveys a sense of desperation.
• Keep it light and business like when talking about yourself.  People don't want to hear your life's story or that you are getting a divorce.  Always keep things positive and light.
• Try to gather at least 3 to 5 business cards per event.  If you have a chance to jot down something that stood out about the conversation on the back of the card even better.
• It's okay to follow up with a brief email the next day.  Briefly state how much you enjoyed meeting them and maybe mention a mutual interest that surfaced during the encounter.

I hope these tips have helped you to at least think about how to prepare for your next networking event.  Happy Networking!

Got a Degree? Tell Melinda Gates How You Did It!

Got a degree while having to work a job or two, care for your kids, your parents, had difficulty yet still persevered?  Tell Melinda Gates at http://www.gatesfoundation.org/foundationnotes/Pages/melinda-gates-101005-celebrating-community-colleges.aspx We need more graduates, inspire someone else, be a hero!

Costa Rica/Panama Trip Video 5

I often lecture on LeaderShape - the act of shaping tomorrow's leaders.  One of the critical character traits that every emerging leader should work on developing is "Enabling Others to Act." 

We do not lead in a vacuum, nothing truly great occurs without the support, cooperation and collaboration of many.  Fulfilling a higher purpose in life requires that we work together to elimate those barriers that keep others from leading.  While I was president of my Alumni organization the Latino Leadership Alumni Association, I raised funds in order send my daughter Veronica to Costa Rica and Panama on an experiential learning experience to provide free oral healthcare to indigent orphans, and families in these two Latin American countries.  Although, I realized that my daughter would benefit from this life changing experience, my main motivation was to help my fellow Latinos who lack the access to medical resources and where therefore suffering from oral disease.  My proudest moment as an emerging leader was to not only raise the funds for my daughter to participate in this experience, but to also raise enough funds to send much need supplies to both Costa Rica and Panama. 

I personally donated 288 toothbrushes, toothpaste and floss. I was also able to convince Crest and Oral-B to match my donation doubling the total to 576.  With the help and generosity of my Alumni group we were able to send over much needed supplies and the only Latina dental student on this trip to serve as interpreter.  We "enable" her to act, to provide these services.  That is what servant leadership is all about.  Enjoy the clip on their amazing trip.  Ask yourself, what legacy will you leave?

To What Degree...

When does it make sense to go back to school?  There is no disputing that higher education can be an invaluable stepping-stone in the quest to establish a successful career and land a great job.  But a degree is not the right choice for everyone.  Here are some considerations to explore, before taking the leap into a degree program...

• You've researched your major and there's a growing demand in your new field.  It is always important to choose a field that interests you, but what good does that do you if it's a dying art?  Check out the Labor Statistics to see what fields are in high demand, currently nursing, computer software engineering, techology network systems, accounting, data communications and auditing are topping the list and demand will increase over time. 
• You don't bury yourself in debt.  Student loans are no joke, especially if you borrow more than you can afford.  A good rule of thumb is to never borrow more than you can expect to earn in your first year of employment.  Explore your companies tuition reimbursement/remission policies.  Are you eligible for state grants or scholarships? School administrators will try to convince you to take on more debt - than you can afford -don't do it.  An easy way to figure out the going rate for your field is to visit Salary.com there you can get an idea of what employers are paying in your field in your city.  It's the best way to make an educated decision about how much you can afford to borrow.  
• You don't need to dip into your emergency savings.  School is a choice, it is not a necessity.  There are plenty of successful people without degrees in good paying jobs in a variety of industries.  I'm sure you know a few, I know I do.  A degree is no guarantee that you will land a good job or even get paid a decent salary.  A job search can take several months and even then entry-level jobs pay at the bottom of the salary scale for your industry.  So remember, save your emergency stash for when you really need it.
• An accelerated degree is not all it's cracked up to be.  Not all degrees are equal.  Accelerated degrees often times comes with a hefty price tag, sometimes as much a four times what you would spend on a regular degree at your local state college.  Research the college's reputation, it's accreditation and job placement services.  What rating does it hold in the Peterson's Guide or USA World News Report?  How well do employers value an accelerated degree from the school of your choice.  Bottom line, do your homework before you enroll.

Don't Like Your Life? Work On Your Priorities!

A lot of people go through life complaining about lack, they hate their jobs, they're broke, they're out of shape, they don't have the life they want... Have you heard this from your friends and co-workers?  Are you saying some of these very things?  Guess what? I hate to break it to you, but, your life is the way it is, because that's how you like it and want it to be!  How many of you go to work, come home, eat unhealthy food, watch three to six hours of television, go to bed, sleep poorly then get up the next day, day after day and do the same thing.  Week after week, month after month, year after year.  You make way less than you spend, you can't remember the last time you exercised, and yet go on and on about how there just isn't enough time to get it all done.  SMH, now do you seriously have to wonder why you have the life you have?

Your life is the way it is because that's the way you choose to live it!

Now most of you will argue that this is not true, that you want to be healthy, wealthy, and happy.  No you don't! No, seriously you don't!  Stop lying to yourself and others!  Because if you really wanted to be healthy, wealthy, and happy you would have those things.

The sad truth is that you really don't want those things, at least not enough to do what you need to do in order to get them.  Now here's a secret... these things are not going to manifest themselves in your life!  If you want money - do the things you need to do to earn it, hmmm now does that sound a little like WORK? Shocking isn't it!  Now, here is a novel idea, why don't you sit down and write out a plan for every area of your life?  Do you know that most people spend more time planning their weekends than they do planning the rest of their lives? 

Seriously, what kind of house do you want? How much savings would you like to have in your account?  What kind of car would you like to drive?  How much do you want to weigh?  Where do you want to go on vacation?  Do you have a college savings account for your kids?  No? Why not?  Most likely you haven't even seriously thought about these things - these are not your priorities. 

You can always tell what important to a person by two things, where they spend their time and money.  Those things they spend their money and time are their priorities! 

Want to change your life? Do this: Pull out a sheet of paper and write down exactly what you want your life to look like.  Go into detail, paint a picture with your words.  Then focus on these things every day. Add to your list as needed.  This is not about setting goals or the "secret" this is about priority setting. 

Now that you have your list, take action on your priorities, do what needs to be done to get the things on that list, spend you time, your money, your effort on YOUR PRIORITIES! Talk about them with your friends and family... then and only then can you be healthy, wealthy and happy.  Create your life by focusing on your priorities.

Take Action Challenge

Make a list of ten positive changes you've made  so far this year.  Start a file, either in your journal, online journal or open a file on your computer.  Label your journal "My Success Journal" and list your ten items there, or if you have done this before, add to your list.  It's important that you write it down, because when we write things down they become concrete in our minds, and by doing so you are increasing your self-worth account.  When your self-worth increases, you feel better about yourself, and your attitude becomes more positive.  The more positivity you put out into the Universe, the Universe responds by sending you more positive experiences into your life.  You begin to draw to you better life experiences.

If you belong to an online group such as a Facebook page dedicated to Positive Thinking, celebrate your successes together.  If not, share your accomplishments with a friend or family member.  Then spend some time treating yourself to a walk on the beach, a stroll in the park, an afternoon at the theater, enjoy an afternoon out with friends or spend time with loved ones.  Don't just move on to the next item on your list of goals - take time out the celebrate the small wins or even the big accomplishments.  Stop and reward yourself for all the hard work you put into developing yourself!

Remember, the road the a better life begins with a single step... enjoy and be blessed!

Take Stock of Your Present Circumstances

Just last week, Temple University celebrated its annual convocation with nearly 7,000 new students in attendance... its as good a time as any to take stock of you life and your present circumstances.  I invite you to take a few moments to reflect on all the positive changes you've made in your life.  We go thru so many changes in life, some we initiate, others that seem to be thrust upon us yet we rarely take time to reflect on how some of those changes have had a positive effect on our lives.  When you take the time to count your blessings you feel good about yourself, and when you feel good about yourself you are more likely to make better choices and attract better things to your life - better people, better jobs, better opportunities, and better experiences. 

If you have never formally or informally taken time out to reflect on the positive changes in your life and your present circumstances and are not sure how to get started, answering the following questions may help:

1) What positive changes have you made in your life?

2)  Have you found it easy or difficult to remain positive during these changes?

3)  Has your emotional, spiritual or physical well-being improved as a result of these changes?  If so, how?

4)  What character traits have developed as a result of these changes?  Are you more patient, light-hearted, courageous or self-confident, for example?

5)  What difficult choices or decisions did you make that dramatically improved the quality of your life?

6)  What obstacles have you had to overcome or challenges have you faced?  How did you handle them?

7)  How has your personal and professional relationships improved as a result of these changes?  With you co-workers, your friends, your partner/spouse, your children or family members.

As you begin to answer these questions, keep your focus on what works, what you've learned about yourself, not on what still needs improvement.  By acknowledging your areas of growth, you begin to build up your self-esteem, self-respect and self-trust, these three key factors will support the positive choices you make for yourself and your loved ones and help you forge healthier relationships moving forward.

If you take things one step at a time, each week do just one thing that moves you towards a more healthy and creative life you would be amazed how quickly your life becomes positive and you are happier!  You are important and deserve the best life that you can possibly have.  So, go out and get started on your weekly challenge. Congratulations on the first step to a more positive life!

Cacica Yve's World: Imitate Shamelessly and Often

Cacica Yve's World: Imitate Shamelessly and Often: "I've found the one of the fastest ways to learn anything is to imitate a role model. Think about how you learned to walk, speak, write the a..."

Imitate Shamelessly and Often

I've found the one of the fastest ways to learn anything is to imitate a role model. Think about how you learned to walk, speak, write the alphabet and even to tie your shoes. In your early years, learning by imitation dominated.



So how can you apply this to your leadership journey?

• Business schools have students read biographical articles and books about leaders they admire so that they can learn their secrets to success at the rate of one per week.

• Entrepreneurial women accelerate their success threefold by emulating mentors.

• Interns cultivate greater self-awareness and emotional intelligence by working outside their comfort zone and imitating successful managers in the organizations where the complete their internships.

Have you ever heard the quote "Dress for the job you want, not the one you have?" If management can see you fitting into an environment, they will likely think of you when a position opens up.


Imitating what you admire in others and want to acquire for yourself requires becoming a student of human nature and behavioral science. As a student of human nature you are now ready to spot the best of what anyone has to offer.


How can you start on this experiential learning curve? Select someone you interact with on a regular basis that has some characteristics that you would like to acquire. Take time to think about recent experiences you may have had with this individual. Focus on what this person did that peaked your interest. Was it the way they handled a particularly sticky situation? Was it how they lead a team effort? What was it that caught your eye? Reflect on how you can imitate the way they handled the situation. Where can you apply this knowledge? Actually contact the individual, compliment them on how they behaved and ask questions about your observations.


You can also apply this method to people who frustrate or annoy you. Seriously, if you apply this to people who frustrate you it will change the way you see a whole host of people who, at some point in time, got on your nerves. My point is, that you can learn from everybody. So keep an open mind, you never know what you might learn. Peace

Cacica Yve's World: When Should You Update Your Résumé?

Cacica Yve's World: When Should You Update Your Résumé?: "I'm often asked when should you update your résumé. My best answer is 'when something significant is worth noting.' Say you’re a college stu..."

When Should You Update Your Résumé?

I'm often asked when should you update your résumé. My best answer is "when something significant is worth noting." Say you’re a college student with little experience, you just made the Dean's list... now is a good time to pull out your résumé and note that accomplishment under education.


You changed your contact information; note it on your résumé. What I have found is that often times you’re asked to submit a résumé for a variety of reasons and we sometimes forget to read it before attaching it to emails and later find that it’s not as up-to-date as we would like it to be.

A good rule of thumb is, don't note past employment that goes back more than ten years, unless it’s relevant to the position you are applying for. Tailor your résumé to the job you’re currently seeking. Note accomplishments as concisely as possible. It's not a job description so do not cut and paste this information on to your résumé. Quantify whenever appropriate. Proofread, proofread, and proofread. Did I mention the importance of proofreading? It really does matter!

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

I recently heard from a trusted friend that certain members of my community were questioning my commitment and involvement in a council I joined.  I find it interesting that my commitment was in question or that I was being singled out in a meeting in which I was not present.

I have to date attended all the council meetings and have given what I thought was constructive input and yet I was not being characterized as an outsider with no direct ties to the community.  My question is, who defines community?  What criteria (or hoops do I have to jump thru) is used to measure this commitment?

For those of you who clearly believe that the center of your world is defined by a particular neighborhood or a four block radius... let me introduce myself.  I was born in the Fairmount section of Philadelphia.  Until third grade, I lived in the Fairhill section of the City and attended Welsh Elementary.  From fourth to nineth grade I lived in West Oak Lane attending Pennypacker, Lewis & Germantown High.  The last high school I attended was Mastbaum.  I later married and purchased property in West Kensington, which I have owned for the past 29 years. 

I've resided in Fairmount, Fairhill, West Oak Lane, West Kensington, Logan, Parkwood, Northern Liberties and Oxford Circle.  I've worked in West Kensington, Fishtown, Old Kensington, and North Philadelphia.  I was educated at Temple University in the heart of North Philadelphia. 

Again, I asked what defines a community?  I believe that I belong to the Latino/Hispanic Community, the education community, the University community, the Philadephia community, the neighborhood community... to many communities.  Perhaps its that I actually have expectations, standards, values, and beliefs that might intimidate others.  Perhaps I like to challenge the process, push beyond my limits of comfort, push others beyond their comfort zones?  Is it my healthy disrepect for the impossible that scares others?  Or is it that I am challenging others beliefs about what is acceptable and more importantly was is no longer acceptable?  Hmmmm I wonder.  I can't help but think about that old saying, "No good deed goes unpunished!"

You Can't Solve a Problem With the Same Mind That Created It...

Often we get caught up in power trips and let our egos get the best of us and behave badly in public. When you stick you foot in it, the best thing to do is try apologize and move on. If you can work it out, even better. The last thing you want to ever do is stoop to someone else's level or get into a public pissing contest.



Everyone loses when that happens! Trust me, I've learned this the hard way, it's not worth damaging your reputation. Realize that you can't change anyone's mind you can only change yourself, your reaction, your thoughts. Let go of the pettiness. Say what you must, keeping in mind that you are a professional, but then walk away.



You can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it. Meaning, until you change your perspective or are willing to let go of your need to be right, you will never resolve the issue at hand. You will simply continue to compound the issue by your actions and your words.



We should agree to disagree without being disagreeable. There is a time and a place for everything.



Just a random thought...

The Climb...

When I hear the lyrics to the song "The Climb" I almost feel as though someone has written the lyrics to my life... after many years of working full-time sometimes two jobs and going to school part-time as an adult student I am finally graduating from the Fox School of Business and Management.  There were many times when I seriously thought I would never make it... that I would quit either my job @ Temple or school b/c it seems as though the ends did not justify the means. 

I have to say that now that this current "climb" is over... I have set my sights on higher peaks and moutain tops and cannot wait to start this new adventure.  I would like to take this opportunity to thank all people who have made this dream a reality... first and foremost the Most High, without which I am nothing!  My understanding children - Jessica, Veronica, Shana and Richard.  My parents and siblings who had faith in me and encourage my pursuit of knowledge. 

The various supervisors who were understanding and allowed me to flex my schedule to accommodate my class schedule.  My friends who have understood the fact that although I am not around as much as I used to be before school and I love them and am where there for me. 

My foes and haters who provided me with motivation and inspiration to continue even in the midst of their envy...  My sweetheart Julio who always encouraged me to do me first - my kids second - my extended family third -then him cause he knew I carried him in my heart. 

Lastly, I want to thank that inner voice who sometimes discouraged me and cautioned me not to take risks... for feeling the fear and doing it anyway!



The Climb...
I can almost see it.


That dream I'm dreaming, but

There's a voice inside my head saying

You'll never reach it

Every step I'm takin'

Every move I make

Feels lost with no direction,

My faith is shakin'

But I gotta keep tryin'

Gotta keep my head held high



There's always gonna be another mountain

I'm always gonna wanna make it move

Always gonna be an uphill battle

Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there

Ain't about what's waitin' on the other side

It's the climb



The struggles I'm facing

The chances I'm taking

Sometimes might knock me down, but

No I'm not breaking

I may not know it, but

These are the moments that

I'm gonna remember most

I've just gotta keep goin', and

I gotta be strong

Just keep pushing on, but



There's always gonna be another mountain

I'm always gonna wanna make it move

Always gonna be an uphill battle

Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there

Ain't about what's waitin' on the other side

It's the climb



There's always gonna be another mountain

I'm always gonna wanna make it move

Always gonna be an uphill battle

Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there

Ain't about what's waitin' on the other side

It's the climb



Keep on movin'

Keep climbin'

Keep faith baby

It's all about, it's all about

The climb

Keep the faith, keep your faith, woah

Give Them What You Want

When you give others what they want, you paradoxically receive what you want.

If you want power, empower others...

If you want money, give money...

If you want respect, give respect...

If you want to learn, teach others...

If you want praise and recognition, give praise and recognition...

If you want to be free, liberate others...

If you want love, give love...

What you do for others will be done for you...

So it is written, so it shall be done...

We Don't Value Free or Easy

Often times, I hear the quote "If it's free, give me three!" This sounds funny enough, unfortunately many people are programmed to depend on hand-outs and hand-ups.  The problem is that free is not valued.  If it comes easy to you, you don't tend to value it either.  I've read hundreds of articles, books and blogs about successful people and what they do.  I've been mentored by highly successful people and this is what I have found:

Highly successful people invest regulary and significantly in their own growth...
They spend a great deal of time and money in acquiring the best resources in terms of books, coaches, workshops, classes, and programs in the pursuit of excellence.  They tend to be the eternal student, always looking for ways to learn and grow, be the best at their craft.

Highly successful people pay-it-forward by helping others...
Each freely shares what they've learned with colleagues, mentees, and clients. Their willingingness to help others who aspire to do the same by sharing their knowledge, skills and expertise impacts society exponentially. Those they help, tend to pay-it-forward and help others as well.

Highly successful people become fountains of information...
Highly successful people are more concerned with their growth than their comfort; they are more committed to learning than leisure. That means they invest in time and energy in learning and development.


But it doesn't end there... not only do they share their expertise, they increase their expertise and abilities in the sharing. A wonderful synergy takes place when they help others. Not only are others learning from this exchange, you increase your own knowledge base when you teach what you know to others.  You gain insights from others in the process. 

The lesson, if you aspire to become and stay successful: pay-it-forward...

Let Your Light Shine...

Our deepest fear is NOT that we are inadequate...


Our DEEPEST fear is that we are powerful beyond measure..





It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?

Actually, who are you NOT to be?



You are a child of God..



Your playing small doesn't serve the world.

There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you...



We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us..

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.



And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciouly give other people permission to do the same.



As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

~ Marianne Wiliamson



I really like this quote because often as women, we tend to keep our light hidden under a bushel for fear that other women will not like us or want to be our friends, that men won't want to be with us because we are talented or make too much money, or have standing in the community.

Sabes que? The Creator gave you unlimited potential to manifest a great life... but you were also given free will to choose the life you want to lead. Do not abdicate your choices based on what others might say or do. Choosing to do nothing - is also a choice. Always do your best, knowing that under all circumstances, simply being the person you were meant to be.. and doing your absolute best will keep you from having regrets about what you woulda, coulda, shoulda done and why your life is what it is...



Just a random thought

Realize It's Not A Competition...

When I reflect on the value of community, many thoughts come to mind:




my success can be achieved only with others...



my lessons can be learned only from others...



my weaknesses can be strenghtened only by others...



my servanthood can be tested only under others' leadership...



my influence can be compounded only through others...



my leadership can be focused only on others...



my best can be given only to others...



so I should commit myself to and celebrate with others...



Recognize that other people have an impact on every aspect of life. I can choose my attitude whether that impact is positive or negative.



Don't look at your friends, family or teammates as competition... Be that rare kind of person who is happy when others succeed.



I realized a long time ago that it was impossible to do anything of real significance on my own. It is very difficult to achieve any measure of success without help and even if you do become successful, you won't enjoy it without friends. Life is better in a community of people you love and who also love you...



What I have discovered is that the journey is a lot more fun when you take someone with you for the ride!



"Educate a man and you will educate his sons; educate a woman and you will educate generations...

~ Lupe Ontiveros

I've Got News For You: You Are Paid to Work

It's funny, the personality ethic would have us believe that we should do what we love and love what we do and the money will take care of itself... it will follow.  Well that's a load of malarkey!  I don't love what I do and I suspect that few of you love what you do!  But guess what?  Your boss doesn't care if you love every aspect of your job - he/she is not paying you to love your job!  Your boss is paying you to do your job!  Shocking, isn't it? 

I like what I do well enough for me to put up with the aspects of what I'm supposed to do that I hate/dislike.  Either way, I do my best.  Now your best obviously is going to be different when your under the weather as opposed to being in tip-top shape, but again - you are not being paid to feel good.  No one really cares about your marital problems, personal problems, your kids school recital, or whether or not you are in the "mood" to work.  They are paying you to get the job done - then go home.

When my ex-husband and I owned our own business, we hired people to get the job done.  We tried to work with them if they needed time-off to deal with their other responsibilities like kids/parents.  But for the most part, we could care less if they loved their job or either one of us!  We just wanted them to do what we were paying them for: WORK.

So the next time you come into work and think that your boss or co-workers should be more compassionate about your personal problems - remember: You Are Not Being Paid To Be Happy or Love Your Job... You Are Being Paid To WORK.

Got that? Good! Now go on and enjoy the rest of your day!

'NiLP Latino Census Network: The Future of Racial and Ethnic Categories'

'NiLP Latino Census Network: The Future of Racial and Ethnic Categories'

Examine Your Eyesight

Take your focus off of how others see you... what other's think is not important, the only thing important is whether you can live with your actions, with your decisions, with the man/woman in the mirror...




Cease being obsessed with the need to impress your friends and foes... they're not really impressed with you anyway... don't you see, you're just a source of entertainment for them... good or bad it gives them something to talk about...



Keep your concern on the vision you see in the mirror.... don't stop doing what you need to do, what you know you have to do in order to get to where you want to be. If others start talking trash to discourage you from being what you were meant to be... use it as a catalyst to make you work harder to reach it. Don't stop because other people are afraid to go for it... this is your dream, your destiny, only you can live it...



Don't allow the approval of others to obstruct your view of you... no approval necessary... the Most High endowed you will all the gifts, talents, and skills you need to reach your potential... but He also gave you free will. It's up to you to reach that potential, you have your seal of approval from Him... no one else's is needed or necessary...



So I ask you: WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?

Thinking of Joining a Professional Association ?

Are you considering joing a professionial association and not sure how you might benefit?  If you are, this post may help you decide.  There are associations for just about every conceivable profession you can think of.  There are many are local, online, statewide, regional, national and international available for you to join.

By joining an association, you increase your ability to tap into the synergistic group dynamic, which can lead you to personal and professional growth as well as create valuable life-long relationships and connections.  Here are three vital reasons you should join:

Take a Proactive Role in Your Career:

Joining a professional association is a great way to take a proactive role in your own career development.  You have an opportunity to search for jobs on job boards as well as post jobs when recruiting.  Additionally, many association ahve panels of experts that you can contact for specific information about trainings or certifications classes that may be of interest to you.  Today, with technology being as advance as it is you can download videos, podcasts and PowerPoint presentations and learn from the comfort of your own home at your convenience on your computer or iPod.

Expand Your Knowledge Base:

Most associations provide an in-depth amount of access to resource information in the form of white papers, articles, case studies, resource guides, and books authored by experts in your field.  Also, there is typically a newsletter, magainze of major journal associated with your association that is provided as part of your membership services.

You also have the ability to stay informaed regarding the latest trends, best practices, and issues affecting your industry.  In addition, many association proved a scholarship information, links to publications and give awards for excellence in the field.  Regardless of the field you're in, it's always important to keep your skills up-to-date and broadening your knowledge by joining an association is a great way to accomplish this.

Build Your Network:

If you do nothing else but build your network by joining a professional association then this in and of itself is worth the price of admission!  I don't have to tellyou haow important it is to cultivate professional relationships and contacts.  Joining a professional association allows you to connect with a diverse set of like-minded folks who can support you on your journey to success.

Associations often sponsor numerous events throughout the year both social and educational, which provides its members with countless opportunities to meet other members, establish relationships that lead to job prospects, sales, and friendships.

You can also develop your leadership skills by serving as a volunteer, on a committee, or on the board.  Its also a great place to share ideas, and brainstorm with others who are facing some of the same challenges in the industry/profession that you face.

Another major benefit of joining is that you have the opportunity to mento youth interested in going into your field or find your own mentor who can help take you to the next level in your career.  Additionally, you may find opportunities to sharpen you public speaking and presentation skills by participating in forums, conferences and book clubs.  Joining a professional association allows you to use your peears as sounding boards and often make some great friends who share similar interests.  A final incentive is that some membership fees are tax deductable.  So I ask you, is there a professional association out there that interests you?

The $20 Bill (Story)

Source Unknown



A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”



Hands started going up.



He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you, but first, let me do this.”



He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill.



He then asked, “Who still wants it?”



Still the hands were up in the air.



Well, he replied, “What if I do this?”



And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty.



“Now, who still wants it?”



Still the hands went into the air.



“My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20,” he said.



“Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless.”



“But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you.”



“The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE and WHOSE WE ARE. You are special - Don’t EVER forget it.”

Be Blessed!

One Exists for Other People...

“One knows from daily life that one exists for other people...”


Albert Einstein (1879–1955)

Swiss physicist







So many of our GiveMore quotes are hidden within greater thoughts and passages. The quote above is pulled from the excerpt below from Einstein's essay, The World as I See It.

"How strange is the lot of us mortals! Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he sometimes thinks he senses it. But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people -- first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy. A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving."

Knowledge is Not Power

We have all heard this saying before - "Knowledge is Power" that is total B.S. Knowledge in and of itself is not power. Using knowledge may be power, but just having knowledge and doing abosolutely nothing with it... is a waste. Be weary of those who espouse that knowledge is power because nine times out of ten, you are about to get hustled.




How many times have you known something and done nothing with it? Did it make you feel more powerful? Did it get you closer to your goals? Did it make you richer, better, more successful knowing it but doing nothing with it? I seriously doubt it.



If you know something and can't use it or implement it then what good is it doing you? The implementation of knowledge is power. Knowing how to apply it is useful... knowing it and not know how to use it is just plain stupid and a waste.

Just a random thought for today. Why because I hate it when people espouse platitudes that really don't make sense. Common sense is a valuable commodity that few of us possess. When people say things like "that's common sense" my normal reply is that "sense is not common to everybody" "if it were, we wouldn't be having this conversation right now."

Does that make sense to you? Why assume that people know what your saying? Especially, when you're doing a lousy job of articulating what you mean. Say what you mean, in plain English or Spanish (if you speak Spanish instead), the point is don't try to sugar-coat it, make it sound more important than it is, or less offensive. Sometimes, you have to risk offending people, be politically incorrect if it means that they understand what you are saying. Sarcasam is lost on the truly stupid. Save your breath. Tell it like it IS!

Stop the external referencing...

There is no one on this earth exactly like you... no one else has your unique combination of gifts, talents, strengths and limitations.  When you were created a seed was planted but its up to you to drink in the knowledge and bask in the experiences... its up to you to be fertilized with the lessons that make us strong... and its up to you to use these blessings to create the life you were meant to live.

It is your responsibility to create that which you desire to manifest in your life... and that mean's knowing yourself and not trying to replicate another.  Why would you want to squander the uniqueness of your special gifts to become a cheap carbon copy of something else?  Don't seek approval from others or try to "fit in" in order to make yourself acceptable to others... because the fact is that you are perfect in your imperfection. Stand in your glory, take back your power!

You cannot be something you're not... and why would you want to be?  The conditions of your life are always speaking to you... they are a reflection of the decisions you have made, the actions you have taken, the words you have spoken... So if you are not living the life you want to,  then ask yourself... have I been true to myself or have I done what everyone else has done?  Have I ignored what was right for me and tried to reinvent myself into someone else's image of what I should be, how I should act, how I should live?

Every moment we are changing internally and externally... new information is changing our internal landscape. Only you have control over your internal landscape... no one else.  All that you need, you already have within, you just have to discover it for yourself, cultivate it, nurture it, and that means finding what works for you... not copying someone else or asking someone else's opinion of what you should be or do...

And so it is.... be Blessed

Congratulations LPLI's Class of 2010

I would like to take this opportunity to congratulation the Latino Partnership Leadership Institute's Class of 2010 Unidos Sin Fronteras on their commencement ceremony which took place, Friday, March 19, 2010 at Concilio Ballroom.


I write commencement rather than graduation, the word commencement means a beginning; a start. This is the beginning of your journey into leadership... this is not the end of a program or a destination. You are now standing on the road to self-empowerment and hopefully on the road to creating a better Latino community.

They say that to those who much has been given, much is expected. My expectation of this year's class is that same as I have expected from every class that has ever participated in this leadership development experience... and that is for you to know take these rudimentary tools that you have been given, and continue to develop them and yourself and manifest positive change and progress in the Greater Philadelphia Latino community. Thereby, strengthening the community at-large.

I challenge you to be the class that has the next City councilperson, the next school principle, the next college Dean, the next Executive Director, the next entrepreneur, the next State representative, the next Mayor, the next Governor, the next block captain, the next child advocate, the next volunteer...

I urge you to clarify your priorities, to not get so caught up in the minutia of insignificant daily acts that you forget to the important things that need to be done in this community. To figure out that absolutely, positively must get done, what's most important and imperative - and do that first, regardless of how difficult or if it's the only thing you do. Because at the end of the day, that is what will move this community forward from mediocrity to greatness - that is what inspires people, that is what creates positive social change. And you have better believe that from this moment forward, your every accomplishment and failure will be kept in a scorecard... what do you want yours to say when all is said and done?

Are you ready to eliminate excuses today?

How many times have you wanted to do something, to take a risk and you talked yourself out of it? 

• I'm too old
•  I'm too young
•  I can't
•  That will never work
•  I don't have enough money
• I'm not smart enough
• It's too difficult
• It will take too long
• I don't have time to do it

Any of these sound familiar?  That fact is, if it's ever been done before - it's possible therefore, YOU CAN DO IT TOO!  Eliminate all the self-defeating chatter from your vocabulary.  You must make it a habit to stop yourself everytime you find that you are making an excuse not to move forward... not to stand in a position of power... not to fulfill your destiny.   Make a commitment today, just for a week, to stop and write down every excuse you say or think... at the end of the week, you will be amazed at how many you have. 

If you serious about changing your life, start by eliminating the excuses you tell yourself and others...  Be Blessed

Start the Day Right

Start each and every day off the right way... open yourself up to the blessings of the Universe!  How many times have you gotten out of bed grumpy because the alarm went off and your still too tired to get up?  Then the thought of going to work, just makes you drag.  How many mornings do you turn on the television first thing to see the weather & traffic and instead hear horrific news about what's going on in the world? 

Start your day right!  Before you get out of bed, thank your God or the Universe for another glorious day!  Start your day off with a positive quote to get you in the right frame of mind... take a few moments to inhale and exhale, relax your body, allow your mind to release all the clutter and chatter that distracts you from opening your consciousness to the blessings the day has in store just for you...

I guarantee that the more you practice this way of intentionally and consciously starting your day off open to your blessings... the more blessings you will notice you have to be grateful for!  And so it is...

Be Blessed

Do we need more Job Stimulus or more WORKER stimulus?

Do we need more Job Stimulus or more WORKER stimulus?

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Tapping the Power Within... ~ Iyanla Vanzant

Tapping the Power Within: A Path to Self-Empowerment for Women: 20th Anniverary EditionI purchased the book Tapping the Power Within A Path to Self-Empowerment for Women by Iyanla Vanzant.  Something she says that she read has really struck a cord with me so I would like to share it with you today...

The Light of God Surrounds Me

The Love of God Enfolds Me

The Power of God Protects Me

The Presence of God Watches Over Me

Right were I am, God Is....

And So It IS!

Be blessed by these worlds... repeat them to yourself so that you can begin to feel safe enough to begin your journey into "tapping the power within".  May your journey be peace filled and joyful, injoy and enjoy! And so it is!

Sweat the Small Stuff, Then Work Your Way Up

When I teach at conferences or as a guest speaker at seminars, often times people walk up to me afterwards and say that this is the kind of work they would like to be doing. This is their dream. So I ask them where have they taught or what's their area of expertise, and some share their experiences with me, so I encourage them to keep at it.


But most, respond rather embarrassed that they have never done this type of work before or that they've never done public speaking, or not yet, etc. "Then you need to start", I explain to them. You've got to start somewhere, start small and work your way up.

Leadership is the same in that sense. If you've never led before, you have to start somewhere. Try to influence one other person, from there build a team. Start with a cause that you all have in common or want to do something about. Start with what's necessary, start today, start now... the point is to start.

"Start doing what is necessary; then do what is possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible" ~ St. Francis of Assisi

One Million Mentors Campaign To Save Our Kids Tour

OMM Tour: PHILADELPHIA, PA


ONE MILLION MENTORS CAMPAIGN TO SAVE OUR KIDS TOUR

CITY

TIME: 7:00 - 8:30 PM

PANELISTS/SPEAKERS:

-Michael Baisden

-Others TBD



NATIONAL PARTNERS

-100 Black Men of America Inc.

-Boys & Girls Club

-National Cares Mentoring Movement

-Big Brothers Big Sisters



NATIONAL SPONSORS:

-Michael Baisden

-Census 2010



MAKE A DONATION

RSVP TO THIS EVENT

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Its time to step up and save our kids

-Michael Baisden



Wednesday, 12 May, 2010

07:00 PM - 08:30 PM

Be Generous - Give of Time

Most people think of generosity in terms of money, but you would also think of it in terms of your time.  If there's a cause that is dear to your heart - find a way to give of your time as well as donate money.  Many non-profit organizations and schools are starved for talented, innovative, resourceful people who want to share what they have learn with others who need it most.

About six years ago, I went on this "leadership journey" with a group of young Latino professionals, since graduating I've found that one of the things I loved most about the experience which I rediscovered was volunteering my time to my community.  Over the years, I've always participated in letter writing campaigns and I've always given money to various causes, but I never had the "time" or so I thought to give of myself.

It's surprising how you find the time to do those things that are most important to you... and I felt great afterwards knowing that I helped make the world a better place.  So when I hear friends and colleagues say they don't have time to volunteer I can't help but shake my head.  Since starting my leadership development certificate with Latino Partnership Leadership Institute, I've held two jobs and have been a part-time student, I've found the time to be on three board, two committees, mentored three girls, get on the dean's list, get a promotion at work, and still spend time with my four kids and three grandkids... so really YOU don't have time? Did I mention, start my own blog???

If you want to see what's important to you, what are your priorities - look at how you spend your time!  In leadership development one of the exercises to help "clarify your values" is to take a look at your calendar and see our you spend your time.  Don't have one?  Take out a piece of paper and write down all of the times you've done this week, for example went to work, went to school, studied for my mid-terms, had Friday night dinner with the kids, went to a community meeting, composed a new blog entry, etc.

I know some of you are saying, but I don't have any skills I can share - that's a bunch of hot air! Of course you have something to share, we all have something to share, never, ever, ever think that you have too little to give to others.  If you can read this blog, you can read a book to a child, if you know how to type - you can help a non-profit type their newsletter, if you can answer a phone (and I'd be hard pressed to find somebody who can't answer a phone) you can volunteer to answer phones on a domestic violence or run-away hotline or for a PBS telethon.

The point is, you always have enough to share... so my question to you is: What are you waiting for?

Embrace Your Personal History

There are no accidents in an Intelligent Universe, so all of the hard times, mishaps, illnesses, and broken dreams were all part of your spiritual advancement... of your growth... of your journey.

Embrace it all, for it has all played a role in molding you into the phenomenal person you are today. Everything that has happened to you in your life up to this point has served to build your character, shape your perspective, strengthen your resolve, and clarify your values.

Honor them by learning the lessons that life has provided us with. Express this through self-love, self-validation, and personal integrity. Honor all the parts of you and your life... for it all has had value.

Then transform them in your own way, transform these events to work for your benefit, in your favor. Seek to be open to learning the lessons that the Universe has for you.

Then go out and share what you have learn with others, show them how they too can transform these seemingly coincidental accidents in their own lives to be better, to change their lives.

There are no accidents in an Intelligent Universe... and it is no accident that you are reading this blog today.